Fall for the person,
not the profile.
First Dating is a free dating app built for the part everyone skips — actually getting to know each other. Answer real questions, see who thinks like you, and start with something better than "hey".
Three minutes to start. Answer as much or as little as you like.
Her answer · Question of the day
"Home feels like a kitchen where someone's already put the kettle on."
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questions to answer
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ways to check compatibility
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How it works
Three steps to a first date that isn't a job interview.
Make a profile that says something
A photo, a few honest lines, and the things you'd actually want someone to know. No essays required.
Answer questions, not prompts
Pick from icebreakers, deep questions and values. Every answer becomes a way in for the right person.
Message people you've got something with
See a compatibility score, shared interests and their real answers before you send the first line.
Everything inside
Nothing between you and the getting to know each other.
Built for the conversations that decide whether there's a second date, not for keeping you swiping.
Compatibility quiz
Twelve quick questions on how you love, argue, spend and plan. Every profile you see comes with a score and the reasons behind it.
Voice intros and voice notes
A twenty-second intro on the profile, so you hear someone before you read them. Voice notes in chat when typing loses the tone.
Question of the day
One good question, every day. Answer it and it lands on your profile for people who'd actually care.
Conversation starters
Stuck on the first line? Drop in an icebreaker built from their answers instead of another 'how's your week'.
Discover with filters
Browse by age, city, what they're looking for and the interests that matter to you. No endless noise.
Plan the date in chat
Send a real plan: where you'd go, what you'd do and how long it takes. They accept it, you set the time, and it's arranged.
Date ideas and local meetups
First dates sorted by mood, plus member-hosted meetups in your city for the nights you'd rather arrive with company.
Likes and matches
See who liked you before you spend a single like. When it's mutual, a chat opens for both of you.
Save for later
Not the right week? Save someone quietly and come back when you've got the energy for it.
How did the date go?
After the evening, both of you rate it privately. Agree it went well and we'll suggest something for the second date.
Check-ins that watch the clock
Share the plan with someone you trust, set a home-safe time, and we'll alert them if you don't check in.
Message before you match
Send a thoughtful opener to someone whose profile you liked. If they say yes, the chat opens and your words are already waiting in it.
Away from home
Visiting another city? Tell us the dates and you'll browse — and be shown to — people there until you're back.
Milestones worth having
Badges for the real things: your first hello, an open-book profile, five dates that went well. None of them for sale.
No paywalls, no tricks
Messaging, likes, matches and every safety tool are free. Nobody can buy their way to the front of your inbox.
Safety, built in
You meet them. Someone else knows where you are.
Meeting a stranger should feel exciting, not reckless. Every check-in tool is free and takes about a minute to set up before you leave the house.
Create your free profileSomeone always knows the plan
Before you go, share the date — who, where, when — with a trusted contact. We email it to them for you, no copying and pasting.
A timer that checks on you
Set the time you expect to be home. If you haven't tapped “I'm safe” by then, we email your contact so they can reach you.
A live map, only for them
While the date is on, your trusted contact can follow where you are on a private link, and it stops the moment you're home safe.
Verified members
A verified badge means a photo ID and proof of address, checked by a person before it's granted, so the face you're talking to is the person you'll meet.
The questions
Good questions do more than small talk ever could.
Five sets of questions, from easy openers to the ones that stay with you. Answer a few and your profile starts to sound like you. Read someone else's and you'll know whether you want to write to them.
- Icebreakers8
- Go deeper8
- Values8
- Playful8
- The future8
Go deeper
What does home feel like to you?
“A kitchen table with too many chairs pulled up to it.”
Values
What's a line you won't cross, even for someone you love?
“Pretending I'm fine when I'm not. I'd rather be honest and awkward.”
Playful
If I met you at a party, what would you be doing?
“Holding a drink I never touch, talking to whoever's on the doorstep.”
Someone's out there answering the same questions as you.
Join free, answer what you fancy, and see who you actually have something with.